Choosing to Observe

I read an email from Mike Dooley a few days ago. He said, “Instead of saying I am Happy or I am Sad or I am Hurt or I am Angry, pause and then say… “I choose to be Happy, Hurt, Sad, Angry, etc.” It woke me up to owning where I was going. Also, it No.Blameshowed me where I place blame. No blame is needed… I am acknowledging my choices. I was driving my car home after work this past week and I was tired after a full day of work and all that it entails. But I caught myself and said out loud “I choose to be tired.” Hmmm? What that gave me was the time to pause and think about if I am really tired or am I just saying this for another reason or out of habit? It also allowed me to ask this question: “do I really want to be tired?” So I said to myself out loud, “I choose to be happy. I have had a full day and I am hungry and will eat as soon as I get home.” Just adding “I choose” in front of whatever statement I was about to say evoked the question “do I really want that?”  It shows me the power I have to choose. If you are like me, we grew up learning to blame and not taking responsibility for our feelings. We may have heard things like, “you make me so mad” or “see what you made me do” or “don’t make me think like that.” Wow! How we gave our power and happiness away to other people!

I think that when I say or think things unconsciously out of habit, they perpetuate feelings and outcomes for which I am just used to experiencing. It is like if we always say “Mondays Suck” then that brings with it the expectation and hence, the creation or experience of a sucky Monday. The power of our word and thought is huge and this exercise to say “I choose” in front of what we are feeling brings awareness and mindfulness.

This doesn’t mean that when I am truly hurt, angry or sad I blame myself for a less Thoughts.Ropethan a wonderful experience. No! But, if I am aware that I am ultimately in charge of my life and what I believe, then when I am irritated and hurt I can navigate through it better. What I choose to think and believe next will either take me through and out of the experience stronger or it will spin me downward to be consumed by it. Every thought is a choice and it is a practice to corral them to where I want them to take me; how I want to feel and be in the situation.

I believe that how I feel is directly related to what I am thinking and those things that I am telling myself. Yes, at the end of the day I need to have sufficient sleep and if I am feeling ill, I may need to make an appointment with a doctor. There are actions that I am to take to care for myself AND… those actions include becoming aware of what I am telling myself repeatedly or what am I saying about a situation that rises before me and how I react to it. Those spontaneous reactions are also very informative to my beliefs as they are not guarded and hidden but very much Think.Positivetell tale of what is in my heart and mind when something from left field enters my day or moment.

It takes consciousness to be happy. It is an inward thing. And it takes consciousness to be aware of the stories that you nor I want to play out in our lives anymore. Consciousness is cause and thus I am in training to bring about what I desire by exercising my power of choice.

Choosing to Observe,

Sue

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Observing Thoughts

thinking_manGreetings Observers of Life!!!

It is November and I am experiencing a greater awareness of how my thoughts and beliefs effect my moods, situations and the outcome of each of my days. Not only are “thoughts things… and we need to think the good ones” as I heard Mike Dooley say because they stir and create our life, but as I go about my living, and get stirred with some emotion, that stirring is there to uncover the thoughts behind it. If a strong emotion, that is not pleasant, is my current experience, I can stop and begin to inquire what is the belief behind it that needs to be looked at more closely. It is there so I can become aware of it and to gain understanding how it is causing the stir and thus causing discomfort in my present moment. This contemplation is essential so that I don’t fumble about in a sea of unpleasant feelings and experiences. As I choose to change my world by changing how I think about it, I begin to live in a greater state of Joy. I grow in my awareness that Life does not just happen to me but I happen to Life and Life and I dance together as One in magnificent Co-creation. Then, as Life is always moving forward, I am shown where hidden beliefs have been tucked away. As Life happens, there is an uncovering that occurs and my thoughts get exposed. I know that this is occuring because I sence discomfort or resistence to what is going on in the present moment. When this happens, it is time to look at those thoughts and beliefs that are behind it. Maybe a fear comes up and my usual automatic response is triggered. It is then I can stop and examine what is my belief here. It is a belief in lack or that I am not supported? Do I feel that my deepest dreams will never come true and therefore my efforts to make them happen are just a waste of time? Do I feel like my efforts in making a difference at my job are just a benign use of my energy? How about when I take a step of faith and stretch myself into an area that I have not played in before? Do I feel like shrinking back, recoiling, returning to where it feels safe? In reality, I am safe right where I am! These dreams, desires and ideas are not mine alone but that of Spirit delighting to do these things through me, to experience Life as me. And if that is so, then I will be given all that is needed. But, if I think that I can’t, that there is a lack of supply, or that I am not worthy enough, or smart enough or whatever… then that will be my experience.

I have to see my dreams and goals coming true daily and set my thoughts and positive emotions towards them. So I vision. I sit once or twice a day for a short period of time and imagine in my mind what it would be like, feel like and look like. FB_IMG_1446830857268_resizedI sense the happiness and joy. I see myself doing what it is I love to do. I see myself surrounded by love and beauty or a location that brings delight to me. I imagine what I can do now as my dreams are now my reality. I choose to feel it… really feel it. I speak it out loud or write it down, but either way I do so with exuberance as it is this thinking with feeling that stirs and creates. I do not get caught in how things will come to be or even the specifics. That is not my job. My job is to verbalize it and allow the Universe to take it’s action and bring it about. I am to then point myself in the direction of my dreams and goals. I can’t just vision and then sit on my duff and wait for Life to deliver it to me. I have to avail myself to be used. I have to show up. I have to allow myself to be guided as I go do what is necessary each day. For as I go to work, I may meet someone that, as we talk, has information I need. I may take a trip and when I get to where I am going, I am inspired and learn something that helps me take the next step. Or maybe, I am to make a decision that requires some risk and stretches my faith and a song comes on the radio while walking through a store that confirms I am to do it.

There are also urges and intuitions that when I learn to listen and heed them, they come more frequently and my faith and trust in Life and its leadings grows. I am indeed supported by Life. (Call Life by whatever name you are comfortable with… God, Spirit, The Universe, the Great I AM, Goddess, Shiva, Source, Love, Lord, Mother / Father God, or whatever.) It is my acknowledgement that there is this Power in the universe and I can use it, co-create with it, dance with it, and dwell in it. And my thoughts are creative and the Universe responds to them. I need to consciously choose the good thoughts and when I discover I have hidden thoughts and beliefs that no longer serve me, that keep me stuck, I need to release them and do the work that changes them for my greater good. This is an active choice. It can be hard at first. Those old thoughts and beliefs are like habits and as I become more conscious of what I am thinking about each day, I will catch myself thinking “oh that will never happen” or “this will never change” and I stop it. I change it to “anything is possible” or “I am willing to allow good to flow to me” or “change is good” or “the Universe is abundant and I am supported by the Universe. There is an unlimited supply and all my needs are met.”

So, combine the activity of changing thoughts when the old ones creep into your mind with visioning for 1 or 2 short sessions a day; seeing and feeling what it will be like when you are where you desire to be and doing what you desire to do and this will shift the Juju. This practice will open you up to the next events that will further you into the direction of where you want to go. Share your dreams with people that support you. Those people and friends that cheer you on and lift you up. The simple act of sharing can create an energy and excitement. It is important to surround yourself with like-minded people! I know that I have immeasurable benefits by being a part of my spiritual community which I get to participate in many ways. www.cslsr.org Action is needed… and sometimes just showing up and doing what seems to be the next logical thing in the direction of your dreams is what opens the flood gates!

I love observing my thoughts and changing my thinking!

Thinking Big,

Sue

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By observing the world around us and our reactions to it, we become more aware of ourselves.